Be thankful for what you have and don’t have.
I intend to as I binge drink tonight.
Turkey Day Wishes
I binged last night not as much as I thought and woke up this morning after sleeping in. This is my first Thanksgiving in the house where I live. I’m used to a house where the family gathered and one of the fundamental things was eating the food together. This fell apart after about 2010 and the house became some kind of holiday purgatory where each of the high holidays seemed to have yet another set of limitations or conditions put upon it.
I’ve come up with some wishes or blessings which perhaps are set for posterity or at least for me to come back to every so often when I doubt things or start feeling that those days were better than what I have now.
- You can’t go back again. Its better to find the goods and even bads in what you have now. The past cannot be resurrected even if you spend your afterlife in a pyramid. Basically, what you have now is what you have. Be thankful.
- Families change. What we call family today may suddenly change. My friend Ed can testify that what he once hoped for was that he would have this family unit but it changed under him. How divorce acts on this during the holidays is a strange thing.
- Time and Space changes. Everything at all times changes. Whether you really want it to or not. In fact, I think the things change in spite of your wants, needs, desires. In 2009, I spent Thanksgiving in Chennai India. It was one of my last weekends in India. It was, and I still remember, a strange, hopeful thing. Here I was so far away in a place I had lived for most of that year but something shaped like a metallic cigar would whisk me away first to Singapore and then home. Takes me to the new thing.
- Homes change. What we call a home today and what we may call one tomorrow are up to the same forces. Nothing stays stagnant besides those things which have gone already. This is another one of those things you just have to accept or deny. Denial means you have not come to grips yet with what you find @home.
Finally, I wish you all the measure of goods and even bads you all need. You need the goods because they show you a path and how you reach a place. You need the bads because they challenge and make the trip to the goods worthwhile. Never discount the power of the bads as transformation engines. If you merely accept and don’t strive to learn, you are the dodo bird of the creation story and will spend your time not knowing the extent of the goods or the level of the bads.
Thanks for reading the blog. Its become important again to me to write here after whimpering in my non blogging solitude for a bit. I still feel sometimes that the engine allows me to write things you all don’t really care about. Dished out in family sized portions of inedible recipes of my own goods and bads.
That’s too bad. Or too good. Pick one.
Happy Thanksgiving you all.